I may be a tad over dramatic...but honestly you NEED a good relationship between you and your doctor. He needs to trust you, you need to trust him. When you have many small children it's vitally important that you know he has your best interest at heart.
It's all about personality too. We don't DO pediatrician's. I like going to a doctor that sees the whole family, who knows the entire dynamic of the family. Our old doctor was a perfect fit. After being discharged from a practice for non-vaccinating (on schedule anyway!) Dr. H was a breath of fresh air for us. He was a non-alarmist, laid back, and really listened to my intuition. I guess that it helped that he knew the doctor that I had worked for prior to being a SAHM...but he was a perfect fit, until he decided to become a dermatologist.
I was so sad.
I transfered to another doctor, and immediately we were oil and water. He doctors out of complete authority. He ended up forcing me to transfer in the end....otherwise I would have been discharged due to "differences of medical opinion" anyway. He actually ridiculed me for using Tylenol to bring down one of Reagan's fevers. He SHARES my opinion that doctors over medicate, and does not hand out meds easily. I explained that Reagan was my exception because she has a tendency to spike fevers, and as an infant she had once spiked a fever of 106 and had begun to go into a febrile seizure before we got her into an ice bath. He *actually told me that there were medications on the market for anxiety disorders.
I never went back. Don't mess with mama bear. I have friends that go to this practice, and that's cool. I never question why someone fits with someone else. That's the beauty of this health care system (which we need to protect) is that we get to choose a doctor that fits OUR particular family, and our personalities.
The search went on. You may remember the practice who scheduled (and then canceled) the babies 4 month well baby visits. They rescheduled me for 2 months later, and when I showed up the practice was not seeing patients that day. They *forgot to call me.
I never went back.
My good friend suggested Dr. L, and I went. It was a good fit. It's a very small office, and they all know me by name. When I call with a problem they call me back, or see me the same day. He listens to my concerns, respects my opinion as the mother, and makes a medical opinion. While he may not completely agree with all of MY opinions he respects me.
When I was there yesterday, Joel was not. They had already done his well baby exam a few weeks earlier. The whole staff...from the receptionist, to the MA, to the RN, to the doctor all asked how Joel was doing, and how I was coping. They had heard his screams. Dr. L realizes that something is wrong. It's nice to know that I am at an office that actually cares....I mean really cares about what's going on with Joel and the whole family.
My point of this post is this:
If you are ever unhappy with the way your doctor handles a situation, especially if it pertains to your child, look somewhere else! Always remember that they work for you, and that they are making medical decisions for YOUR child. If they make a mistake YOU have to live with it, so you should be very comfortable with the judgment of your doctor. People have different personalities, and you need to find the right fit for YOU. Don't ever be afraid to shop around, because when it comes to your child's health you just can't be more careful.
If you are a first time mom with an infant, or a first time pregnant mom...don't forget this step! It's easy to stay focused on your pregnancy, but it's only 9 months long! You will be with this doctor for the next 18 years, so this relationship is potentially much more important than even that of your OB! Interview, interview, interview. Make a list of questions that are the most important to you (keep it short, you can figure out the doctor's personality with only a few key questions) and ASK!
Reagan is in 1st grade, she loves school and has never had trouble making friends. She's the most smiley and friendly child I have ever met. Reagan loves cats, horses, and most every furry animal in the world. She loves music and is taking piano lessons. Reagan was diagnosed with Epilepsy in July (2010), and is on a regiment of medication to help lessen the amount of seizures that she has. Reagan is a great kid, and we are so proud of her!
My Jedi knight....Ethan is very sensitive. Out of all the kids, Ethan's personality most matches my own. He is very sweet, and shy...but he opens up and is the class clown once he's comfortable with his surroundings. Ethan is very smart, and he loves to play with his Star Wars toys. He's our only true "blondie", and during the summer his hair is almost white. Ethan is extremely loyal, and is a very very good brother...very protective. ;)
Triplet "A", leader of the pack. Laney sees the world in black and white...it's either right or wrong, yes or no...and she has no trouble proclaiming to the world what she thinks is "right". She's the most like daddy in personality. Bossy, (in a good way!). Sweet, Sassy, and LOUD. Laney loves dresses, church, Reagan, red meat, and going to the zoo. She hates green vegetables, and is a big wimp! :)
Addie is our girly girl. She is our only curly headed child, and wasTriplet "B"...pickle in the middle. She's very sassy. She has "Addie-tude". Addie is vertically challenged, even compared to our small kids. She's double jointed, and we plan on starting gymnastics soon. Addie is the most verbal of any of our kids. She LOVES vegetables, and hates meat of any kind. She's afraid of most animals, and has a hoarding issue (she loves collecting things...and keeping them!) She's very smart, very sensitive, and a big mama's girl!
Joel is my strong and silent type. He's the biggest child I've had, length and weight. Joel is non-verbal, and we are waiting an official diagnoses, which will come sometime after he turns 3. Joel is sweet, so so so sweet. He melts my heart every day. He love trains, cars, and really anything with wheels. He likes riding his scooter, and his big wheels trike. He loves to swim, and is a huge fan of ANY food. He will eat more than a grown man. It's amazing.
Josh and I were married in May of 2002, but we started dating in 1996. He is an insurance salesman, and is the best daddy! He loves to play with the kids outside, and has no problem pitching in with the housework. He's manly enough to admit that he likes watching Glee with me. He volunteers at church with the elementary after school program.
Then there was me... I enjoy being a mom, being a part of our MOPS steering team, photography (I make no claims at being GOOD at it!), writing, and organizing. I love being a housewife, and I am contemplating what will happen when my last child(ren) goes to school. I want to be the "room mom" and do all the mom stuff, but a seperate part of me really misses work. I am a cloth diapering, and breastfeeding advocate. I am a child of God. My favorite book of the Bible is 1Peter. I love cats and horses. I love to read, and I am in love with "The Hunger Games" right now. That's about it. :)